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Five Truths And A Lie About Co-Sleeping With A Toddler

By on November 5, 2016



I co-sleep for my family, my baby, and for me. I’m not saying every other mom should co-sleep  and I know it doesn’t work for everyone, but every mama has a gut and my mama gut told me to co-sleep. In fact, I’ve been co-sleeping with Lila since she was about 4 hours old. The nurses didn’t want me to in the hospital when she was born, but the nurses weren’t her mom. I wanted to have my baby in my arms every single second.




Just like I believe in letting her learn at her own pace, and try new things at her own pace, I think that she can move to her own bed when she is ready. We won’t be sharing those precious moments forever, and if it is working for us why change it? Yes she hogs the bed, and yes, I have been startled awake by a foot to the face. But the benefits outweigh the negatives for us.




Co-sleeping actually has several positive benefits like security, closeness, and ease of nursing. I feel like we’ve avoided an incredible amount of stress and unrest by doing what works best for us. This was a no brainer choice for me because I coslept, my siblings coslept, and my siblings cosleep with their children. We never even purchased a crib because I was so positive we weren’t going to use it. I suppose I could have been wrong and Lila wanted to sleep on her own, but that most certainly was not the case.




Everything on our co-sleeping journey has been smooth sailing and sound sleeping but recently our little baby has entered full blown toddler stage and we decided to try a DockATot to see if that would give her more of a defined space in our bed. If you haven’t heard of DockATot it is a multi-functional lounger; both a co-sleeper and playtime lounger. They are handmade in Europe, designed in Sweden, OEKO-TEX certified, all natural, and 100% cotton. For those reasons it was basically a no brainer when deciding on a co-sleeper.




There were two sizes to pick from Deluxe for 0-8 Months and Grand 9-36 months. We went with the Grand and it fits her perfectly with plenty of room to grow. We have a Cal King bed and it takes up about 30% of the bed which is a lot less than the 70% she was somehow taking up without it. Jake and I sleep on either side of DockATot keeping Lila in the middle of the bed for safety reasons. We have been using it for a few months now and it is exactly the transition we needed while still having her close.




5 Truths About Cosleeping With My Toddler

  • I often wake up to my husband saying, “Lila just kicked me so hard in the face!”
  • Every morning I wake up to snuggles, kisses, and laughter. (Okay and an eye poke.)
  • I believe in the scientific studies that prove co-sleeping encourages independence due to reduced separation anxiety and builds self esteem
  • I feel comfort in knowing that if she wakes up, I can comfort her in a matter of seconds
  • I need her to fall asleep just as much as she needs me.


1 Lie About Cosleeping With My Toddler

  • I have regretted my decision to co-sleep. (Not once.)

Do you co-sleep with your kiddos? What has your experience been like so far?





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Why I Choose Not To Leave My Daughter With A Babysitter

By on October 26, 2016



In my whole life there was 3 people that my mom would let babysit me: my dad, my older sister, and my older brother. With that said I had absolutely no memories in being watched by someone that wasn’t a member of my immediate family. My mom was a stay at home mom and was there at home with me everyday. I remember having friends that would go to after school programs because their parents had to work and my mom would explain to me that she chose to be a stay at home so that she didn’t miss a single moment with me.

At the time it was a little bit confusing to me why anyone’s parents would choose to work past the time their kid got out of school. As I got older I grew to learn very quickly that it’s not as simple as choosing to be a stay at home mom rather than work. Being an adult is expensive, and also being a parent is expensive. I realized my friend’s parents had to work and that it wasn’t as simple as not wanting to “miss a single moment.”




The first major decision I made when I had found out I was pregnant with Lila, was to do everything in power to be a stay at home working mom. I didn’t know what I would do from home and I didn’t know if it would work out long term, but I knew one thing, I didn’t want to miss a moment.

Fortunately, 5 months into my pregnancy I was running a profitable online store that had left me with an opportunity to be able to get work with a view more beautiful and more breathtaking from any office. My sleeping baby. As well as the comforting thought that I was the one that got her to sleep and I was the one she was going to wake up to.




Lila was about 4 months old when we left her for the first time. We left her with Jake’s mom at her house while Jake and I went to dinner down the street. From the time I walked out the front door to the time I walked back in the door was about 45 minutes.

In those 45 minutes we were gone I found it impossible to relax. I was distraught the whole dinner and finally asked Jake how he felt. This may seem like a funny answer to you, but we both thought this dinner alone was unnecessary.

I’m not saying that date night is unnecessary and I am not saying time alone from you kids is unnecessary. What I’m saying is that a 45 minute dinner to the two of us is nothing we couldn’t handle without our little girl with us. We took her out to dinner with us all the time, most of the time she would sleep through the whole meal, and other times she would want to be held and Jake would let me eat while holding her and then we would switch and I would hold her while he ate. This was never stressful for us and Lila always behaved as long as we held her.

On our way home from dinner that night we decided not to do this again because instead of having a nice dinner just the two of us, we felt like our little restaurant buddy was missing.

It was well over a year before my mother in law watched her again, and that time was for what I consider a good reason. To this day Lila has been watched by someone other than Jake a total of 5 times and altogether less than 10 hours.

At the end of each day, even if there were things I could have done better, I know we spent it together. I know she safe, I know she was fed, I know she loved, and I know every time she called “mama” that I answered in a heartbeat. That’s why I choose not to leave my daughter with a babysitter.



Pajamas from Finn + Emma: Dreamcatcher // Muslin Swaddle Blanket from Bebe Au Lait: Pansies // Luxury Muslin Blanket from Bebe Au Lait: Fresco + Lagoon 

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I’ll Think I’ll Wear My Pajamas To Breakfast

By on October 24, 2016


If you read my post Things I Do With My Toddler Everyday then you’ll know Lila begins her day eating breakfast and watching Elmo, while I usually sit at my desk and get as much work done as I can before the episode is over. We have been on a strawberry kick lately because aside from being one of our favorite fruits, they have been on sale at our local market for an unbeatable price of 4 baskets for five dollars. Needless to say, we have been eating strawberries with every meal for a week now.  

img_5020   Lila recently outgrew most of her footie pajamas, which honestly I was kind of excited about. All of her jammies had cupcakes or kitty cats on them, and not that she didn’t look totally adorable but we was ready for some new ones. I was so excited to go shopping on and get her two pairs of certified organic cotton, buttery soft pajamas. I also got a matching bib specifically for breakfast time so that it could match her pajamas.   img_5023   In the 30 seconds it takes me to go to the kitchen and get her strawberries once I’ve locked her in the highchair, she will go wild if I don’t give her a distraction. I’ve been giving her this wooden bird and she loves it! She tells it “chirp” and “tweet” and before you know it I’m back with strawberries. It’s made from untreated Indian hardwood and finished with vegetable seed wax which makes feel totally safe about her playing with and biting it.   img_5019   Something that I was totally impressed by from these pajamas was the generous fit. I ordered a size 2T since she is almost 21 months and I was worried they would almost fit ‘too good.’ But as you can see from the photos these are going to fit for quite some time. Another thing that Lila is too big for now but I will remember for baby #2 is their wooden play gyms. Boy oh boy are they cute! I linked it below in case the bright and bold colored ones ones from Target don’t cut it for you. Also you can get 15% off your entire purchase from Finn + Emma. here for the code. I hope everyone is having a great Monday!!   img_5018  

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